- What most people think of your relationship doesn’t matter much
Granted, there will be people who think that they know your relationship better than you do, and they will try to give you their opinions on how the show should run for you. I know this because it has happened to me, and it reaches a point when their opinions and advise start to infiltrate what you have going, and you begin to feel like you need to walk into the lane that they are directing you into. But what I came to learn is that what you need to do is follow your heart, but do not let it destroy your thinking and rationality. When you are fully aware of what you want in a relationship, you wouldn’t care less of what others think of it.
of course we have all heard it before: the most difficult thing to do is trying to love someone who doesn’t love themselves. It is very difficult to get value in a relationship if you do not know your worth. Sometimes, we put very little on us, that we stay on into a relationship that brings out the toxin in us, not because we cannot leave, but because we think that we will get more when we stay, because we are corrupted in mind to believe that we are the ones who are not getting it right, or we are scared of the uncertainty that lies beyond walking out towards a new liberation. Trust me, you have to learn how to love yourself, and share the love with someone instead of having a void, and hoping that there is someone out there who will spring up and fill it for you.
What I know is that well there might be the thrill of playing hard to get, of being mysterious and all, but a time comes when you have to cut the games and be honest with each other. State from the start what you want in the relationship, point out when you feel like you are being wronged, apologize when you need to be forgiven, forgive and learn to let go if you want to proceed, but for heavens’ sake, don’t play games in the hope that your significant other will figure you out. There is no time for that!
Accept that some people were meant to walk into your life, make a footprint and leave.
Do not try desperately to hold onto the frays of a broken love. Do not lose your entire self trying to fix what has already broken into many pieces. Sometimes love means forgetting, yes! Its true…sometimes you have to appreciate what you had, sieve through the good moments and look forward to what is coming, but do not dwell on the past; wallowing in self pity and wishing for the world to end. No! you have to get moving.
Forgiveness makes the load lighter
. It takes a lot of courage and self knowledge to forgive and let go. And forgiveness does not mean that you condone what the other person did; neither does it mean that you a coward who is easily pushed over. Sometimes forgiveness is the only way to get peace and it is an opening towards knowing if you will continue with the relationship or you are moving on.
Love is not supposed to hurt
Of course there is no perfection and there is no love that can be flawless….agreed. On the other hand, love is not supposed to be a series of hurts and tears. No, love is not supposed to be violent, it is not supposed to make us miserable, it is not supposed to hurt all the tie. Love is not supposed to rob us of our self esteem and leave us feeling low every time; that is oppression. Love is supposed to lift us and make us feel good most of the time.