In my previous blog, I asked that you ask me anything that you would want to know about me. This is a concept I borrowed to help me fight writers block and keep things moving. (Haha, isnt blogging fun?)
1. How does your mister react to some of your blogs, like the previous one (sex pistols)?
I got to tell you this Gracie, my mister is sure that he is the one that takes me home, he knows, through these years that we have together that it takes so much to hold my mind, that a man has to do my mind so many times before I lower my defenses and my privates for him….and he knows that he will always be THE MAN that holds my attention. He knows damn damn too well that I cannot fall for another man as long as he lives, that no man will ever love me right like he does. He knows that we fight severally, that sometimes doors get banged and clicks follow in rapid succession, BUT he is the man who carries my heart…so I may have these sex pistols, but it is too fleeting, he holds my heart. Always. Forever and I have always made him know it…so he doesnt feel threatened by Laurie Hugh. (Whoooo, that was some long damage control)
2. what drives u in life.
I live for LOVE and LAUGHTER. Really, those are the things that have pushed me this far.
3. Apart from writing, what else do u do?
When I am not writing, am practicing motherhood. I am also a certified psychologists so I do drugs/substance abuse therapy when I am called upon. I studied Human psychology; the human mid just thrills me to no end.
4.If u were not a writer, what other profession would u have done?
Everyone thought I was going to be a lawyer. Before I went to journalism school, I went to the university of Nairobi and got an admission to the school of law, but I bailed out for the fear of getting bored to the skin.
5.how did u meet ur man n for how long have u been dating?
My man and I will be doing seven years together at the end of this year. It has been a journey of knowing the other, self realization, tears, laughter, and LOVE. Mostly love. And we met in a bus 🙂
6.What makes him so special, as in, what did u see in him that other men dont have?
What makes my man special is the fact that we have a connection. From the very first time he talked to me, he got me. We are so in sync such that I am can almost predict how he would react to situations. Another special thing about him is that he makes me laugh…seven years and he still tells me the most hilarious stories that knock me off my breath…and his ability to stay calm and patient when things get off, when the winds of life blow to hard, my Simon holds on and sails it with me. He always has…and did I say he makes me laugh? He is also the most forgiving and understanding human being, and he is too mature for his age.
7. where do u see urself in the next 5 years?
In the next five years, I want to publish three books, and then I want to sit home and earn from it. And I want to come back five years from now and see that it has become a reality.
8. If u were to die now, what would u be remembered for?
I donno what I would be remembered for. It is hard to tell what people think about you, given that humanity can be so pretentious and sneaky. I stopped wondering what they might think of me.. One thing that I will always remember, and God knows I will never forget is the experience that I have gotten as a volunteer with the Kenya hospice and palliation. I have battled disease and I know what it means for the body to fail, I know what it means for you to think you are dying…I know because I have been through it. Being a volunteer and going to KNH to talk to someone going through chemo, to hold the hand of someone in the last stages of cancer…to see them crack a weak smile in the midst of pain…to whisper to them that they matter…those are the experiences that i will carry with me, even to death.
I hope that when I die, I will be remembered for putting a smile to those in extreme pain and worry….
9.if ur dad was to ask for ur forgiveness so as to make things right n mend things, would u forgive him?
I forgave my dad a looooong time ago. I did, all he needs to do is to forgive himself and realize that he is the one who lost, not us. My mama did a good job with us…he missed a lot of good things, it is his own loss. we have blossomed to be beautiful women, and that is all that matters. Hooooray to my mama, who never even once bowed out.
10. Are u born again?
I am not born again. I havent declared it at any church. I was born a catholic….but my religion is: I live to do good to the people I meet. I live for doing good. That is what drives me…I know I fall short so many times, but I try to see the good in people.
11. Who is ur role model, ur mentors?
My mama….I want to be like her. She is so graceful. Ever since I was growing up, I have never seen my mama ooze negative energy. And I have never seen my mama turn her back on anyone who needs to be helped. Allow me to declare that my mama is a SAINT to me.
12.What is your philosophy
My philosophy is to LIVE and LET LIVE. I live my life the way I see fit. Yes, I do not live according to people’s definition. Those who know me will tell you that I rattle the status quo…i ask questions when I feel I need to. I demand for my space when I feel I am being crowded. I walk out of conflicts when I know that they will not benefit me…i am a coward when it comes to getting to a battle zone whose results will not elevate me in any way. I LIVE. And I let other people live too…if one needs me out of their life, I make myself scarce. If one decides to live in a way that I do not believe in, I let them be. I will never change for anybody, and by the same token, I dont expect anyone to change to fit my expectations….i live and let others be….that is my philosophy.
13.what do you love most about what you do?
I love that sometimes I give people who have been robbed of their voice by the situations that they have been through. I love that sometimes I am able to tell the stories of those oppressed and put in shackles because they do not know who and how to tell their stories to. So I take their stories and I put words into them…and sometimes, they find liberation through this. I love that sometimes I become a vessel of telling stories that should have been told a long while back, but people were too scared to tell them. I love that I am able to remove the gag from those thrown into the murk of any form of abuse and suffering.
14. which people have had impact in u as a writer?
I will choose writers: David Sedaris, Sylvia Plath, Maya Angelou, Wahome Mutahi and so many more. Writers who are RAW and uncensored always inspire me.
15. What advice would u give someone going into writing for the first time?
Good writers are those who write their TRUTHS. Those who can tell their stories and not give a damn about being judged. Good writing is not about the language used, or the metaphors, or imagery. Good language is to tell your ordinary stories and undress in front of your audience and tell them…you know what, this is who i am…
16. what have been ur high n low moments as a writer
my high moments as a writer is that I have been received well by my audience as a writer. This month of February alone, my blog has gotten more than 10,000 visits. My low moments as a writer is that I do ghost writings, I do freelance journalism, sometimes I am hired as a stringer, so I sell my stories…so when other people bump into them elsewhere without my by line, they think that I copied from those sites…yet I am bound by media law and ethics to not reveal when I do ghost writings. So I end up lacking a defense.
17. What motivates you
what motivates me is when a stranger writes to me and tells me: “Hey, your stories inspire me…Hey Mercy, you have encouraged me to move…” I feel motivated when that happens.
18. What is your favorite meal?
Fries, salad and mountain dew. I eat it too many times.
19.tell me something few people know about u
I am very SHY and laid back, in as much as people think that I am too outgoing. Most of my free time is spent sleeping and listening to music. Also, I stammer and speak in so many segments. Also, I am so forgetful. I have to be reminded stuff A LOT. I also forget faces very easily.
20. What gives u sleepless night
I cant sleep when I am broke. I know, but I worry a lot about going flat broke.
21. what does ur target as a blogger entail, what is ur target audience?
My target is young adults. People who are discovering themselves and are battling issues that they dont know how to handle. My target is people like me, people seeking answers in the things that life brings.
22.As a young kenyan, what kind of leaders does kenya need?
I think Kenyans need to embrace the leadership that lies in them. If only they found the fire that burns in them, and are able to use the talents that they have, then probably, they wouldn’t need a leader to help them to be self sufficient.
23. who is Mercy Orengo?
I am a woman who was brought up by a strong woman, born in Kisumu, schooled in Nyanza, and I am turning 26 this year.
LIVE. LOVE. LAUGH. CONTINUE…………